One game at a time. Don’t you get sick of hearing that phrase repeated over and over from athletes? We are just taking it one game at a time….
Well, since becoming a mom, I get it. I look at my life that way now. One day at a time. Sometimes, one week at a time. Otherwise, it becomes totally overwhelming.
People have asked me to write about how I juggle everything – well it’s all an act. Seriously, a juggling act: one that might seem easy, but is constantly in motion or just plain out of control. Depends on what day it is!
From the second I get my football and basketball schedule, I put pen to paper and try to figure out how to get where I need to be, when I need to be there. Will I fly from Dallas or drive? Is there any important event I’ll be missing at home? Now, who’s going to take care of Hunter? Basically, it forces me to be very organized, and that is NEVER easy.
As I go through my calendar, I’m booking flights, talking to my husband, then my family, and trying to sort everything out. Honestly, it’s nuts, but somehow we make it work.
Last year, my mom and baby went with me to EVERY college football game and pretty much every Thunder home game. It was amazing and incredibly hard. It would’ve probably been easier physically to leave him home, but then harder emotionally! This year, I will try to do a little of both.
So, here’s how it works. My mom travels with me when I take my son. She’s amazing. I couldn’t do what I do without her. When I’m on the road with a team, my family helps take care of him. That includes my awesome mother-in-law who is as hands on as any in-law ever…..my sisters, dad, father-in-law, brother…you name it. I have the most incredible family.
It takes a village, and my husband, Ben, is the chief! It’s kind of funny actually. I worry when I’m away that no one can take care of him like I can….then I return, and Ben is the one telling me how Hunter likes things. It’s been so great for them as well! They bond when I’m away. It’s been the best thing for all of my family to get their own, sweet time with the baby. And to be honest this A-type mom needed to go away to let go! I couldn’t have ever done what I have without a supportive family and especially husband….I just got really lucky he’s a hands-on, one-of-a-kind dad too.
On the other side of things, it’s not all fun and adventurous. We lead a different kind of life. We deal with being a part from each other, family, and friends throughout the year. I don’t really remember what having a weekend is like, and I don’t have a group of friends I see consistently. My best friends are those who know me, support me, and don’t have to see me all the time. Sometimes the grass does seem greener on the other side – I always feel like I’m missing out on some big party or special event I’d love to be at, but year after year, I’ve decided that my job is worth it. Luckily, my family supports me!
For me; it’s God first, then family, then work. It has made our lives a little crazy, but it has worked for us. We’ve made friends in different places and experienced things as a family we couldn’t have otherwise. I like to think I see things half full instead of half empty – but it’s a constant battle!
So this year, like all years, will have its own struggles I’m sure. However, I feel like if I can do what I did last year with a newborn – I can do it now with a toddler, right?! It’s a learning process and a challenge every day, but it’s fulfilling. It’s what makes me go, and every day is an adventure.